At the heart of my coaching is transformation. Not because we need to change or there’s any place we will “arrive” and THEN we’ll be happy. We transform because it's essential to our wellbeing and inevitable in the constantly changing world we live in. I believe we are alive to create, play and grow. While coaching with me, either one-on-one or in small groups, you will align with your Self, connect to your vision, and confront your saboteurs to create the love, life and relationships you dream of.
Courageous Co-parenting Coaching
A radical approach to help parents transform their relationship from lonely, stuck and struggling to loving, cooperative and supportive.
No matter if your together or not!
Perhaps you are at the point in your relationship where you are thinking about leaving your partner but afraid of what it will do to your kids. You don’t want to lose your family but can’t bear to stay in the relationship any longer. You’re scared and miserable asking yourself, "should I stay or should I go?"
I’m here to help you quickly get clarity about what’s best for your family and support you through the changes necessary for you to have a healthy and happy relationship.
In some cases you may be able to reform and reset your relationship to create the healthy, nourishing and loving home you’ve all been longing for.
But sometimes it’s clear that the relationship must end, so together we weather the storm of separation.
If your relationship ends your family doesn’t have to. Your children don’t have to pay the price.
Creating an “expanded family” structure rather than buying into the pitfalls of the “broken family” paradigm is liberating. Yet, a majority of the time, divorce and separation result in painful splits with children feeling caught in the middle and paying the price.
I’m here to show parents there is a better way to transform their relationship in a way that is easier, healthier, supportive and MUCH cheaper than the way it typically happens.
Is your answer yes to any of these questions?
I know something MUST change! The happiness and wellbeing of my entire family is at stake.
I feel lost, frustrated and stuck in old patterns and toxicity in my relationship and afraid of how it’s impacting my children.
I’m wondering, “Am I wasting my time and creating more harm by being in this relationship?”
My children are witnessing the two people they love the most in constant conflict and pain. I’m afraid I’m setting a bad example for them.
If so, you don’t have to go through this alone! With my support you can…
Put yourself first without hurting others.
Show up as the best version of yourself for your children, yourself and your co-parent.
Know what’s best for you and your kids and create clear steps to get there.
Untangle codependency and build secure loving relationships with yourself, your co-parent and your children.
End the cycle of pain and harm. Repair and heal in order to experience a lifetime of love and support.
Make the changes necessary for you and your children to get the love, peace, clarity and security you all need.
Create a scenario where both parents and children are thriving and supported.
It’s not too late!
For those of you who have already begun the painful separation process, there’s still so much to be done to create the co-parenting relationship you and your children need. This program will help you and your co parent work together in a productive, cooperative and supportive way to create the best possible scenario for you and your kids. Let’s face it, this transition can be one of the most painful and expensive experiences in your life.
Don’t do it alone.
"But Wait! I don't want my relationship to end, but I'm afraid it's too late."
I hear you!!! The thought of losing your relationship and breaking up your family is unbearable.
Rest assured, this is NOT the end and your relationship isn’t necessarily over! My clients find this is the beginning of a journey to the healing and transformation that is essential and inevitable whether you stay together or not. The question is what support do you have to make this transition happen in the least harmful and most productive way possible?
"I believe in creating a community network to support the whole family no matter what it may look like. I'm inspired to heal and rewrite the stigma of a 'broken home' and expand the web of our traditionally defined family systems."
The greatest gift and most transformative experience of my life is being the mother of amazing 5yr old twin boys, Jayvyn and Xhaiden Heartsong, who make my heart sing in SO many different ways.
I'm proud to be a co-parent in an expanded family paving the way for more harmonious and supportive alternatives to raise children outside of a nuclear family.
My husband and I were on the brink of collapse. I knew it, yet I kept fighting (literally) for our family to stay together. We had been in counseling for several months and, though it wasn’t easy, I wasn’t willing to give up. But the day before our twins' second birthday my husband announced that he was DONE! He declared we would get a divorce, become co-parents and that our boys would have 2 homes instead of one. My world shattered!
This crucial and life altering decision was made unilaterally and was executed with unnecessary trauma for both of us and our boys. In hindsight, had we known there was a different way and had the support to transition our family to the configuration that ultimately supports us now, it would have been SO much less painful.
Three years later my “wasband” (aka ex-husband) and I have an incredibly collaborative and supportive co-parenting relationship and our boys have an expanded family with two very happy homes with other adults and children they love and call family. It wasn’t easy! In fact it was incredibly painful at times. Over the course of two years, with the support of several mediators and coaches, we worked hard to resolve conflict, repair trust and create a parenting plan that was best for our boys.
Today I am SO much happier than I ever was in my marriage. We are great co-parents even though we were not great partners. We enjoy weekly family outings all together, we help each other with projects and support each other by collaborating on schedules and goals. Though we may not always agree, we have created a foundation of trust and support that puts our kids at the center of our choices and helps everyone feel loved and supported.
As fate would have it, over the last several years, I have been asked to support numerous friends, colleagues and clients with this all too common life event of separating relationships with young children. So it seems only natural that I apply over 12 years of professional experience and a lifetime of deep personal transformational work to coaching couples with young children through family structure transitions.
My Heart's Song
After owning my own dance school, a 15 year career in modern dance performing and teaching around the world, a MFA in Dance and Higher Education form the University of Utah, then devoting myself to physical, mental, emotional and spiritual wellbeing, I became a transformative whole health coach. For 10 years of my coaching career I worked for a Seattle based nationwide healthcare company, Vera Whole Health, as a trainer, facilitator and development coach, certifying health coaches and helping medical professionals to transform healthcare through empathetic listening and coaching skills.
It's always been my dream to have my own studio and community space that I can teach and facilitate the things I love to do like dancing, yoga, holistic fitness, cooking, transformative circle work as well as individual and group coaching. But most importantly my dream was to create a space for community and connection on the path to wholeness and wellbeing. Thanks to taking one step at a time, many coaches along the way and a web of community support, this dream is now a reality!